If you’re asking about need, then you are not desperate. But many smart, resourceful people find that therapy helps them create happier, more satisfying lives. The question is: do you like the way you handle yourself and relate with others? Do you feel confident and generally happy? Are your relationships truly fulfilling? Do you sleep well? Are you comfortable with how you cope with stress?
If you find yourself feeling empty and unhappy, or facing the same problem over and over again, or coping with stress and problems in ways that are creating more problems (i.e. with alcohol or drugs, or overeating, avoidance); then therapy can be helpful by creating insight and offering alternative skills and solutions.
In our society we have moved towards an amazing world of discovery and accomplishment, but we have left something behind. We have fallen out of touch with what’s meaningful and important as our day to day lives are overscheduled and multitasked. Therapy can and does allow us to be reflective and intentional in our life. Therapy can go far beyond problem solving, to an awakening of your potential.
Many people think of therapy as just for those who are in some way ill. It can be so much more. We develop new ways of interpreting and handling problems; we focus on managing stress and widening your support base. Many people come to therapy to work out old issues that still hamper them, or to work through unresolved grief. Problems in marriage or in other relationships respond well to the presence of a third, trained party. Ultimately, therapy can help you be your best self.
The general framework is simple. When we agree to work together, we set up a schedule of regular meetings (most often weekly) and agree on a goal you want to achieve. Usually a session lasts sixty minutes.
Beyond that, we tailor the work to fit you. Short-term work can be very helpful for a specific problem. It’s important to realize that deeper work takes longer, but that the results are much wider and longer-lasting.
Couples work is usually a longer session, about 1½ hours, and often involves some form of “homework.”
Although group therapy is less expensive than individual treatment, it is equally powerful. Within the group there are multiple points of view and you are interacting with your peers and individuals with similar struggles. Group usually meets weekly for 1 ½ hours.
If it’s going well, neither of us will be thinking about “technique.” A good session feels like a deep conversation, in which you’re invited to talk fully about what matters to you. As in a good conversation, I listen carefully to what you say, and to what you don’t say, and give you feedback about my thoughts and reactions.
In any therapy, you have the right to expect compassion and respect. You have the right to expect a venue in which you can safely say anything and experience any emotion. Your responsibility is to yourself and your desire for something better. The change that therapy brings about can sometimes be painful, but will ultimately help you to be more fulfilled and happy as a person.
Medication is sometimes used to treat mental illness like depression, anxiety and other mood disorders. There have been numerous studies to show that medication in combination with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the most effective treatment.
You might be eligible for assistance through an Employee Assistance Program. When looking into the type of coverage you have, these are some helpful questions to ask your program provider:
- Do I have an Employee Assistance Program?
- What is the coverage amount per therapy session?
- How many sessions does my plan cover?
- How much does my plan pay for an out-of-network provider?
- Do I need a referral from my primary care physician?
- If you are a survivor or a victim of crime, you may be eligible for counseling sessions offered by Crime Victim Assistance. Please contact me and I would be willing to assist you in attaining this kind of support.
Counsellors are ethically and legally constrained not even to acknowledge that you are a client unless you give written permission. You may say anything, with confidence that it will not be repeated, EXCEPT that the law requires the following potential dangers to be reported to appropriate authorities:
Suspected child abuse or dependant adult or elder abuse is required to be reported immediately.
If a client is threatening serious bodily harm to another person OR if a client intends to harm himself or herself, every effort will be made to ensure safety. However, if an individual does not cooperate, additional measures may need to be taken.
If a Court of Law subpoenaed a client file, it is a legal responsibility of the therapist to release the file.
In a given situation, where these limitations to your confidentiality apply, you will be informed and involved in the process of sharing your information.
If you have additional questions that are not covered feel free to call or send an email.